Wedding in Korea: tradition, coupled with common sense, minus the remnants of the past and excessive sentimentality. That’s how I would describe this ritual, which, according to Koreans, they must be in the life of every young man and girl. If for any reason young people after 30 are not married, it is perceived by others as an alarm signal. Family, friends and co-workers consider it their duty to arrange a personal life of a bachelor and organize meetings with potential partners. Many are turning to professional matchmakers who, when advertising their services, saying the following: “Love is blind. When a man and a woman love each other, they see their elected representatives only positive qualities and fails to notice shortcomings. Therefore, if you are looking for your spouse, guided only by feelings, you’ll easily be wrong…”
You and whose clan?
In Korean society, there is one immutable requirement: forbidden to marry the groom and the bride with identical Ponomarev (belonging to the same genus). Pont – a kind of “pattern”, i.e., what is the basis. The Koreans can have the same name, but Pont will be different from them. PON is transmitted only through the male line.
Early in the last century, the bride and groom in Korea could meet each other for the first time on the wedding ceremony – collusion went on behind their backs, their fate did senior.
In our time young “bring” on the so-called “somethin” (soge — a representation, recommendation). Most often, the meeting takes place in any restaurant. The representatives of the bride and groom meet, exchange information and get accustomed to each other. Sometimes, by agreement, the parties shall exchange pre-prepared and certified in due form medical reports on the health status of Koreans pay very serious attention to the health of future chosen.
If the introduction was successful and the young people liked each other, the fiancé sends matchmakers. To Woo the bride rides the groom, father, any relatives. In Korean tradition the matchmakers, the number must be odd 3, 5, 7. To be elected in the number of matchmakers (“Wuxi”) is considered very honorable. On the matchmaking, the parties shall agree on the provisional date of the wedding, about the material side of things.
The fact is that the Koreans have this kind of wedding — “the cenci”. It organizes the groom’s party at the request of the bride – simply put, this “bride”, on which numerous relatives of the bride to the groom arrange the inspection. The poor guy has a hard time, make fun of him and fall asleep tricky questions. The groom’s relatives give all the relatives of the bride personalized gifts.
Otdelyvatsya the bride’s side on the next day, strictly according to the list, so you don’t accidentally forget and not to offend anyone.
Wedding in Korea is a very crowded event. In Korean weddings happen for several hundred invited, and sometimes even a thousand: name close and distant relatives, colleagues, friends, classmates. But if at first glance you be appalled at nakedest of such event, then hasten to reassure you – all the expenses will pay off through the wonderful traditions of Korea – the custom of giving young before the holiday, the envelope with money. The envelopes are placed on a large tray at the entrance to “erikjan” (restaurant) and be sure to subscribe! On average in each envelope is a few thousand won (10,000 is roughly equal to 10 dollars).
According to ancient belief the festive table should burst with dishes. “If the table wasn’t visible tablecloths, — the food was king!”, — say the Koreans. The table is crowned by a young cock richly decorated with red pepper in its beak. The rooster symbolizes happiness, and red pepper — good luck, wealth and happiness. A piece of your happiness young handed out at the end of the holiday – gifts wedding send to all the relatives who have remained at home children and elderly parents. And definitely Goodies “to go” give those guests who have a daughter of marriageable age the groom or son – as the desire for early marriage in these families.